Valen, “Mom, is it true that happy people live 9 years longer?”
Me, “probably, happy people tend to find the positive and good in things. People in positive relationships live longer too.”
Valen, “Like you and daddy?”
Me, “Yes, like dad and I. Also people who have a strong family or community tend to be happier and live longer.”
Valen, “Like friends?”
Me, “Yes, like friends”
Valen, “Is school stress, like wanting to do well on a test bad?”
Me, “No, that’s a short term kind of stress, it’s stress that goes on for a long time that’s not so good”
Valen, “So mom, at school we have table groups. The group that wins gets to invite a friend to gym class. Would saying ‘come on guys hurry up lets clean-up’, be bad stress?”
Me, “Well, it would likely depend on how it’s said, in a light hearted manner or screaming.”
Valen, “No mom, I don’t yell.”
What I thought was interesting was how she approached finding out if trying to hurry up the other kids was ok or not. In hind sight there are a million questions I could have asked her around how she was feeling about hurrying the other kids, but replaying the conversation would stress me out. Instead, I relay it as the interesting musing of a 9 year old on living longer and being happy.
I’m happy she ponders how her communication affects a healthy lifestyle and how it will impact on her stress, health and happiness. We could all benefit from a little introspection around this topic.
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To living a life that fills you with love, joy and excitement.
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