Fear is a gut wrenching, sole quashing feeling that puts it’s hand up and says, “Talk to the hand”. It stops us dead in our tracks and can prevent us from doing the things we want to do in our lives, things that will make us feel alive and happy.
Two responses to fear – Not all fear is bad, in an emergency it serves us well. Our response to it makes us move – usually run, or make a call to emergency services. The flip side of fear entrenches and stops us from moving forward with things we want to do in our lives.
Our fears and beliefs, about what we can and can’t do, can control our lives and the decisions we make. Facing our fears can be the scariest and most liberating thing we ever do.
Fears manifest in our emotions – I know, because I’ve experienced total exhilaration by overcoming my own fears and I’ve experienced my eyes welling up at the thought of a new challenge. Those tears are expressions of fear. Fear related to feeling “I’m not capable”, or “competent enough”, or “good enough”.
In February my mind drifted forward to my birthday, May 29th, I decided a gift would be appropriate. My daughter died May 28th so my birthday is always a hard day. This year I decided it was going to be different, I was going to have something to celebrate; I was going to give the Blog’s readers and myself a gift.
A light bulb went off, I would write and publish my first e-book featuring a balanced diet and healthy living. This crazy idea had me in tears. You see, deep down, I was terrified about:
- Putting my knowledge and values out there
- My writing ability
- Being judged
- How to even start
Crazy, irrational fears gripped me and I felt it in the core of my being. Nonetheless, I decided to move forward.
Overcoming fear – As the 29th drew closer I waged an internal battle. With most of the book done, all that remained was to add the last few pieces of information. Simple enough, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I was paralyzed by fear.
On my birthday, I took the day off, had a good cry, wrote a blog about Kateryna and got the text finished. That night Vic and I celebrated. It was my birthday, I’d finished the book, you can sign up for it in the sidebar, and I felt amazing and happier than I’d felt in years. My irrational fear, silenced, sat in the corner nursing her wounds.
We all have fears but fear doesn’t have to rule our lives. Facing fear and riding through it allows us to grow, to experience other feelings like joy, happiness, and elation. Staring down fear and stand up to her lets us know we’re alive.
Fear is a natural part of life, it’s how we choose to respond to it that affects our lives. I encourage you to face your fears, it’s bloody hard, but well worth it. It leaves you feeling alive.
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