Happiness’ is expressed in many ways; none so loudly and visibly as through our face, in particular our eyes. The saying goes, ‘the eyes are the windows to our soul,’ I dare to take this further. I believe genuine happiness is expressed in the eyes; not just in how they beam when we smile, but also in how they crinkle up when we do so.
This large, open hearted, smiling leads to what we women have been told is bad and to be avoided at great costs; wrinkles also, not so, loving known as crow’s feet! We’ve been told these lines of expression are unattractive; a sign of aging and are generally unwanted and unnecessary if we just took better care of ourselves and our skin.
What does this mean, take care of ourselves? Cosmetic industry, through their marketing, are brainwashing us to think, and in many cases believe, that wrinkles are unsightly and preventable. Their efforts are paying off. The industry sells over $43 billion dollars of products each year and is growing at a rate of over 6% per year! Not bad! You are being told that your skin looks better without wrinkles – just so someone can make a profit…and they do. In today’s financial markets, I would like to find an investment that grows like this.
Unfortunately, this marketing hype doesn’t just apply to those in their 40’s and above. No!, now the industry has set its sights on a younger audience. The message, why wait until your 40s to start Botox; prevent smile lines, start Botox treatments (which paralyzes your muscles) before the first wrinkle ever appears.
How young do you think this would be? I’m terrified to guess and what about the long term health implications? Botulinum toxin type A (Botox) was FDA approved only 10 years ago, in April 2002, so there are no studies on long-term repetitive use over 20 or 30 years. Yet Botox sales for 2012 are projected to be close to 1.7 billion dollars and growing, obviously the message is getting through.
Let’s not forget, life isn’t always happy and joyful; sorrow and sadness have real places in our lives and they too are reflected in our expressions. Would society prefer us to have a frozen face; a face lacking the ability to reflect our true emotions? I say Bollocks! I can’t speak for other women, but the sight of my friend’s genuine happy crinkly smile is very welcome.
I’ll be the first to admit; I buy skin creams and put on olive oil as a natural moisturizer, but I have two very impressionable young daughters that, knowingly or not, I will influence in more ways that I can possibly imagine. I aim to teach them that those lines tell the story of the life I`ve lived and that aging is a natural normal process.
Believe me, they ask me about those lines. It goes something like this Mommy, “what are those lines on your face? I saw a picture of you at grandmas and you didn`t have them. Why do you have them now? How of get rid of them?”
I tell them, “they are character lines,” and in my seven year olds beautiful youth she asks, “is that because you`ve been an actor in drama.” One has to love the innocence! Yes, ultimately, I have been an actor in the greatest drama, the one of my life, and my story is told through my face and all the lines it shows and will show in years to come.
I have to admit, when those character lines started to show and stay long after the smile was finished, I had a bit of an internal struggle. I questioned myself, “ do I buy into what I`m being sold is the concept of beauty?” During moments, when my self-confidence waned; I even dabbled a little, but I have grown to embrace my lines. I now look at them as a sign of my happiness.
My face tells a story about my life; the ups and the downs and the experiences I’ve lived through, overall, I`d say my face reflects happiness. My bubbly effervescent personality shows through and I have many a smile line to show for it.
I like to be able to look at a person and see their emotion. This is how I`m able to understand their feelings; a smile or sorrow, as it maybe, expressed with the eyes tells me more than words ever will. So, I too choose to refrain from Botox and other treatments that would limit my expressions. I’m an open book, and my face will tell you if I`m happy, sad or angry.
If you, like me, have had the fortune of looking in the mirror and had to come to terms with how the passing of the years reflects in your face, and you’d like to share your story, I invite you to do so by clicking on my share your story tab. I’d love to read your journey.
For now, I leave you with this. Next time you smile or laugh, hold your head high; embrace your Crow’s feet and most important of all; Smile with your eyes and the world will smile back. Why? Because, smiling is contagious.
Be a smile ambassador; let the world see you in all your glory.
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