Life never seems to happen exactly as we plan. Take this past week. It’s been a rather crappy one. While I’ve remained positive and optimistic throughout, it has been by choice, as this is not my natural default state. What is your natural state when life doesn’t go as planned?
If you’ve experienced a day, or weeks, that you’d rather whip from your memory banks, believe me… you’re not alone. It’s in surviving these times, in soaring and rising above the challenges of life that our character is shaped. There isn’t an experience we live through or a person we’ve met that hasn’t left their marks on us.
Some of these experiences go on to become wonderful glorious memories. Others? Well, as mentioned earlier, others we’d rather forget about. We’ve all gotten bad news, experienced pain in a relationship or felt left out and alone. But these are not what differentiate us from each other.
Rather, it’s how we rise above these experiences, how we choose to act and react to them that determines the level of pain, sadness, frustration and anxiety that we’ll internalize. On the positive side, it’s the abundance, gratitude and life lessons we take from these experiences that enable us to life full-enriched lives.
If we look for the silver linings around these experiences, we’re more apt to still feel the pain, frustration, anxiety, etc. However, we’ll recover sooner and in a healthier physical and mental state.
Speaking of healthier, we often turn to comfort foods when we’re dealing with hard times. Contrary to what our brains tell us, food does not assuage our pain, and it doesn’t make us feel better. Ok… maybe for a few minutes, but not for much longer. We should try to avoid driving into the nearest fast food drive thru or getting our head stuck in the fridge. If we don’t avoid this, the poor food choices will soon leave us feeling lethargic and flat.
What really makes us feel better is dealing with the situation, feeling the feelings of it without living there, getting out for a walk, having a glass of water and talking it out with someone who cares about us and hears what we’re saying.
So, as you close out your week, take a few minutes to consciously look for the silver linings and choose how you’ll feel about the experiences. Let this set the tone for your weekend, a weekend that you determine will be filled with love, energy and possibility.
Enjoy! It’s your weekend… make it a great one! Before you go, leave a comment below, share this on social networks and join our mailing list at the top right of this page. Awesome, thanks!