Saying goodbye to a body part that has served me well

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This Thursday I’ll be having a hysterectomy. The word itself is rather scary and conjures up fear in the minds of most women and men who nurse their women friends or lovers back to health.

For me, I’d be lying it I didn’t say I am scared or nervous, but for the most part I’m excited about a new chapter of my life without my sick old friend. You see, my friend, as I dearly refer to my uterus, gave me four beautiful children. Now, she is old, sick and worn out. She served her purpose well, but now she is a constant throne in my side, well actually my gut, and it’s time to bid her farewell.

It is not without trepidation that I do so; I am not convinced that I can cut out a part of my body and carry on without my body needing time to fill the space. Years ago, I had a tooth pulled and had to have an implant because, as the doctor explained it, teeth need the pressure of the other teeth to keep them strong. It seems we have 26 teeth for a reason and I suspect our larger bodies are not so different.

Yet, I’m prepared for whatever comes, though how I say this, without knowing what will come, is mind-boggling. I am, because I’m ready to say goodbye. I’m ready to reclaim my life, to be able to run, lung and lift, more importantly to be able to piggyback the kids and race them on the beach. I will take what comes because it will be better than where I’m at today.

It has taken me years to get to this decision- to let my womanhood go. It sounds crazy, but yes, I associate my womanhood with my right and ability to give birth. Age is a wonderful thing, it has helped my mind catch up to my body and accept that it is time to say goodbye. On Thursday I will do so.

Wow that’s scary, but I will not dwell on the surgery nor on the recovery – they will both happen and I will recover so no point in worrying. Instead I’ll focus on what I can control. How my mind reacts to all of this, I can and will focus my mind on healing my body, on recovering and on visualizing myself healthy running on the beach with the kids. This is a positive happy visualization, one that I can sink my mind into and focus on to get well quickly.

As I see it, if I focus on the post-surgical pain, the loss of my friend and frankly the poor me recovery period I will dampen my own recovery. I am choosing to look past all of this into the future – at how I am 6 and 8 weeks from today, how strong I will be a year from now.

I’m excited about my new life without my friend. She has played an amazing role in bringing my life to where it is, without her I would not be who I am today. I love her, thank her and bid her farewell.

A new chapter of life begins, one where I accept my womanhood without a uterus, one where I love and accept my new modified self fully and completely. In this transition, my world will open as I flower into new areas of development. I am excited and full of anticipation.

I’ve needed this surgery for nine years, it’s taken me that long to accept and make the decision. Sometimes we have to be kind and give ourselves the time we need, I did and I know it was worth it. In the end only I could choose – I chose health.

Is there something you’ve been putting off that you need to make a decision about? What will you choose? Maybe you need a little time, that’s ok, take the time. Preferably not 9 years.  In the end, after I made the decision it felt like a massive oppressive weight had been lifted from my shoulders. Sometimes the hardest decisions bring us the greatest relief.

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8 thoughts on “Saying goodbye to a body part that has served me well

  1. I think you will be no less a woman without the ability to reproduce. This would have happened naturally anyway through the natural aging process. Not all women can or do reproduce and they are not lesser women for it. For those women who do have children it is part of womanhood to pass through the child bearing age and move on to other challenges. You know you are ready for those challenges even though it’s through surgery and not hormonal changes. Wishing you a safe surgery and speedy recovery.

    • Thanks Laurie, you are so right. I am into pre phase of the changes anyway so this will just speed things along a bit. Thanks for helping me to keep things in perceptive I appreciate it.

  2. 8 years ago I had the same surgery and a wise friend Kathy Klotz said listen to the doctor and you will heal. Was there some pain, yes but it went away quickly. It was the best decision I ever made. I was happy to say good bye to my monthly friend. I find that I’m thriving and feel even more womanly if that makes any sense. I feel free!! Yes my uterus served me well and gave me a daughter.
    Be strong and all will go well. Take care

    • Thanks Bev, I’ll be listening and following. It’s so nice to hear that all will be well even though I intuitively know this to hear yours and other’s stories has been so helpful. Thank-you!

  3. Hey There Allison,

    We are both thinking of you and wishing you all the best for a healthy, speedy recovery!

    With love, always,
    Tania and Iain xo

  4. We are so proud of your ‘positive’ attitude knowing this will serve you well as you move through the ‘healing’ period.
    You are so right in the expressing of your thoughts towards saying ‘good-bye’ to your ‘friend’ which has served you so well over the years. You are ‘you’, the beautiful person you have always been and will continue to be, with or without your ‘friend’, your uterus. It served you well, producing your four beautiful children, however, life moves on. bodies get older and changes must be made.
    We are looking forward to your full recovery, the beginning of a new ‘chapter’ in your life, anticipating with you all the new and different experiences ahead with the healing of your body.
    Love you, Mom and Dad

  5. I am a week from having my machine removed, unlike you it took me 10 yrs to make my decision. Thanks for the positive blog. In a world so large sometimes it feels as if you are the only one going thru hard times. Your blog has helped me to say good-bye.

    • Hi Evelyn. Thank you so much for your comment. I can’t tell you how grateful and appreciative it makes me feel to know that my blog post has helped you in even the smallest way. It really can feel that we are often on our own…..especially when going through a tough time. This is why I think it’s so important to share this type of information with others. Congratulations to you for making a very difficult decision! I know, it’s not an easy one to make, and I wish you the very best as you go through the process. Please feel free to post any questions you may have and are willing to share. And remember to seek out any needed support….you don’t have to go through this alone!

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